Ways to honor your loved ones

 Death is going to happen to all of us at some point. How we deal with that loss is what will make a difference in the rest of our life.

I lost my Dad last October and then stepped up to help my Mum through her journey of grief and being single again. I went through a grief book to manage my feelings and emotions so that I could be present for my Mum. Mum and I spend the next 40 days together living between my home and her home and navigating our relationship. 

When I was a girl, my Mum called me her best friend, but at a point, I didn't want my Mum as my best friend I wanted someone around my age with similar interests to be my best friend. I pulled away from my Mum and started seeking my friends.

I have always been there for my parents, but Mum would ignore me for periods of time for some reason or another. We definitely butted heads now that I am an adult and making my own decisions about life.

I did my best to be there for my Mum. Including her in activities and having a few different friends come spend some time with her, so she could share some of her feelings and emotions with more people. Despite my best efforts, my Mum ended up in the hospital and passed away a short time after my Dad passed away.

I feel she was mad at Dad for dying first and ultimately died of a broken heart. It was February 8th when I said goodbye to Mum and I feel she would be reunited with her husband for Valentine's Day and their anniversary.

I ended up with my Dad's ashes because my Mum didn't want him. I ended up with my Mum's ashes because my brother handed them to me. I was able to leave some of my parents' ashes in the yard of the house that they made a home in together and lived in for 45 years.

I sought out ways to remember my parents and honor them throughout the year. Focussing on more giving and living out bucket list items that I had for many years.

Later, my adult dog passed away and joined them and now I have her ashes too. I will at some point decide where her ashes will remain - I am thinking of the beach but haven't decided yet.

No matter what I do with the ashes, I still wanted something tangible and uplifting to help me remember my loved ones.

What I discovered along the way was that wind and the sound of wind chimes is a way of knowing that our loved ones who passed are thinking of us and are near.

That is when I found these wind chimes to add to my own and the ones that my Mum had hung at their home. 

I am loving my windchimes and when the wind blows I stop and think of my loved ones. I smile a little and feel at peace knowing they are near and watching over me.

If you are looking for a special way to remember a loved one who has passed on, perhaps this will be a good way for you as well. Feel free to check out this item on Amazon at https://amzn.to/3VtPlgD 

If you decide to get these or other windchimes, let me know if they are bringing you as much peace as they have to me. 

Hoping these reduce your stress and bring you back some joy.

Kathleen







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